Believing In Your Partner For a Healthy Relationship

With our hearts we love and with our hearts we also believe. Whatever or whosoever you don’t believe in has no place in your heart and what has not gotten to your heart you cannot really say you love. Belief in a man or woman you are in a relationship with is a sign or mark of true  love. Don’t be deceived if anyone say they truly love you and yet they don’t believe in you they’re not being sincere to you. Either they’re lying to you or they lack the ability to express themselves to you. True love believes in you always!

If you are fortunate enough to find someone who believes in you always, treasure that relationship! True love like I earlier mentioned is laid upon a foundation of truth. Truth simply means: to say what you mean and to mean what you say! Let your partner find you doing what you said you were going to do. Let he or she find you where you said you would be, this way you are giving them room to believe in you. Mind you nobody will believe in you except you have proven yourself to be trustworthy.

The world is full of deceitful people, dupes and people who would tell you one thing and carry out another. This makes it difficult for people to know whom to trust or believe in. it takes boldness for people to believe in you. So if you find a partner that will risk being deceived to believe in you, it is a sign of true love! On the other hand if your  partner still expresses some doubts about you initially in your relationship don’t be disappointed or dismayed just give him or her time to know you for what you stand for and what you wouldn’t be seen doing. People rarely believe in what they don’t understand. You need to constantly communicate with your partner to make them know  your likes and dislike. Don’t pretend, when they say or do something that hurts you say it without being rude. When you have  proven that you actually live by your professed ideals it would be easier for them to believe in you. The heart is a fragile thing  to place in the hand of a total stranger so don’t blame people when they are slow in entrusting their hearts into your hands. Only be patient with them.

If your partner still doubts you or questions you suspiciously or simply wouldn’t entrust certain things into your hand yet professes true love for you even  after you’ve been together for years, know in your heart that either the love isn’t true or you haven’t proven yourself to be truly believable and lovable. It would be wise for you to politely ask him or her if you haven’t proven yourself, then wait to hear their answer. Don’t allow them to play the issue down, insist on hearing from them. Know that people who have been betrayed in the past or have suffered broken heartedness in past relationship normally are slow to believe in people. But you must encourage them to believe in you even as you would believe in them too, so that two of you can have true love between yourselves.

Those who truly love never ever lose all! This means that if you keep sowing seeds of true love in the lives of who ever you go into a  relationship with irrespective of what you find in the relationship, whether you are betrayed or not, you’ll surely come to reap it in some other relationship if only you’ll not stop sowing the seeds of true love. Therefore study carefully the people you intend to go into relationship with and decide whether to believe in them or  not. There is no use pretending or deceiving yourself into thinking that you truly love someone who you  know that you don’t really believe in. If truly you are a sincere seeker of true love in life, you would go out of such relationship.

A sure  way of identifying a partner who truly believes in you is that  he or she always is able to identify potentials in you that you may not be able to identify in yourself. This is because they have spent time to  observe you. It is a sign that you are uppermost in their hearts. They see you for who you really are and the greatness that is capable of coming out of your life because they truly love you. Whenever life’s challenges try to weigh you down they’ll always find the right words to tell you that will  bring you back on track again. Be wise! Treasure that kind of relationship and reciprocate that same true love to them too.

Now a most important point I’ll want to bring out here is that you must believe in yourself first if others must believe in you. Belief in yourself is a proof that you love yourself. If you don’t truly love yourself it will be difficult for you to attract  true love from others. True love for yourself reflects in you externally and everyone sees it.

Your partner who truly loves you wouldn’t accuse you of what you are not guilty of, believing what others say rather than what you are sincerely trying to explain to him or her. This is a proof that they never really believed in you. If you do it to them too you also do not truly love them. The wise thing to do in  this kind of situation is to wait and investigate. Believe in your partner until facts emerge that will make you do otherwise. Don’t join the crowd in accusing them of what hasn’t been proven.

If you happen to find a partner who believes in you, nurture  it because it is a sign of true love.

How Husbands Can Save Their Marriage

Making marriages work requires the effort of both the husband and the wife. But I believe that the husband should endeavour to put in more effort because of the position of the man of the house that he has been divinely placed. Every husband that desires to keep his home together must know enough to avoid certain mistakes. They include:

MARITAL INFIDELITY:

Marital infidelity is unfaithfulness to the marriage vows on the part of one or both partners in a marriage. Marital infidelity is the act of going out to have extra-marital sexual relations. It is a number one home breaker. Another word for marital infidelity is adultery. It is an act of indiscipline. The inability for a man to add emotional self restraint in his friendship with another man’s wife or an unmarried woman is what leads to it. Every unfaithful husband or wife is a covenant breaker. Marital infidelity begins first with either a wife or a husband, then when the other party gets to find out, he or she either seeks to revenge by going out to do the same or simply walks out of the union straight to the court of law to seek for a divorce.

Most women would tolerate a man in any other issue but wouldn’t tolerate him when it comes to marital infidelity. Men are even worse, they don’t want ton hear of it. Anyone without the required strength of character to maintain their integrity and remain faithful to their spouse irrespective of tempting situations should not bother to go into marriage. However, men can avoid this pitfall by taking the following steps;

·       Avoid situations that will keep you in the same room alone with any member of the opposite sex who is not your husband or wife.

·       Know the limits of your friendship with any member of the opposite sex. Avoid becoming intimate with a woman that is not your wife. If you have to travel away from home for a long time, see how you can go with your husband or wife.

·       Make your wife your best friend and lover.

INSENSITIVITY TO YOUR WIFE’S NEED:

The stability of your home is your top priority as a husband. Therefore you must be very sensitive to wife’s need because she is your partner in the home building work. Needs here includes emotional, financial, psychological or material needs. Sensitivity to her needs means letting her know verbally that you’re aware of her inner feelings and going the extra mile to meet the ones that you’re position to meet. Make her feel at all times that she has a man in her life. There is no issue too small or too big to talk about. Many issues that break up most homes and relationship have been ‘boiling’ in the background so to say but none of the two people in the marriage or relationship acknowledged it and dealt with it appropriately. Suddenly, it becomes too big to contain and it pulls the marriage apart. Sensitivity means communicating with each other so as to come to an agreement whenever you sense a silent disagreement between the two of you. An unsettled issue in a marriage is like flowing water that gradually erodes a structure until it suddenly gives way and collapses. The structure should be reinforced speedily before damage is done.

ALLOWING INTERFERENCE BY NEAR RELATIVES:

The success of any marriage depends primarily on the couple, every other factor is secondary. Your relatives may want you two to get married but if there is no mutual agreement between the two of you it just will not work. And in the same way, your marriage will succeed if both of you are determined to make it succeed.

There is an extent to which a husband should tolerate the interference of his near relatives or his wife’s in the issue of his marriage. The husband should be the decision maker and not his own relatives. In as much as it is proper for a wife to give due respect to her in-laws, her husband should not shirk his responsibility of defending her in case she is being attacked by them. Protecting her however is not to take sides with her, but to be wise enough to keep his home intact even as he stands to broker peace between his wife and relatives.

WIFE BATTERING:

Some women could be very saucy and sarcastic. But I am of the opinion that they should be tolerated. Many women talk faster than they can think, so when they find themselves in the presence of men who are quick to strike before they think, they receive blows sooner than they expect. Every wise husband realises that a sarcastic woman is not cured by battering except you’re simply seeking her death. She may be dying but she won’t stop raining abuses on you. The most effective way to deal with such women is to allow the heat to die down and then gently talk sense into her without raising your voice or your hand. The only way a man can stay married to such a woman is to focus on her good qualities; the nicest part of her characteristics while overlooking her sauciness or rudeness.

HOW COUPLES CAN KEEP THEIR LOVE FOR EACH OTHER BURNING

Love is the greatest thing on earth that can happen to us as humans emotionally. When you are in love you’re simply in cloud seven. It’s an experience we never ever want to end. The truth is that we can certainly make our love experience last forever if we know how and what to do.
Some people are afraid of falling in love for fear of getting a heartbreak if the relationship eventually fails. Don’t bother yourself about that. It’s like refusing to go on a boat ride for fear of the boat sinking. When the arrows of cupid strikes your heart just enjoy yourself with whoever you’re in love with. If you believe that your time of bliss would last forever it could!
Couples can keep their love for each other burning if they:1. Think about each other enough. Think about how funny your partner is or how kind or generous he or she is. Isn’t his or her touch really tender? What do you enjoy most about him or her? Think about it and how it could get better.
2. Always find ways of magnifying the attraction you have for each other in your mind. If you do so it will be constantly renewed.
3. Play down the flaws in your individual personality and help each other to overcome them. Be sincere with each other.
4.Do good to each other. That is the greatest evidence that your truly care for each other. Love is meant to remove stress from us and not to add.
5.Don’t cheat on your partner. It is a sign that you’re a snake and that you simply hate him or her. Loyalty to one another keeps your love burning.
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MAKE YOUR MARRIAGE A FORTRESS AND NOT A GLASS HOUSE

How strong your understanding of one another is determines what your marriage is; a fortress or a glass house. A strong and constantly improving understanding of one another means that your marriage is a fortress. On the other hand, couples who careless about taking time to study and understand each other have a glass house marriage. They have this attitude of 'everything will take shape'. Friend, you are wrong! in marriage you don't wait for things to take shape, you put them in proper shape otherwise they'll take a bad shape with time.

Don't build a glass house marriage. Glittering on the outside then one silly passer by may come by one good day and cast a stone at it and shatter your glass house. What do I mean? your marriage is a journey into the future. Storms will definitely come up in the future to test the strength of your union. lets see some of them.

FINANCIAL STRAIN is the number one cause of most broken marriages. Couples who cannot sacrifice for each other can't stay together when their finances are in bad shape. You must put your heads together openly and resolve to take your union into affluence together.

INFIDELITY destroys trust like a hurricane destroys!When trust is gone out of any relationship. You need to do extra work to rebuild it, if at all that is possible.

SEXUAL DISSATISFACTION on the part of either of the couple should be eliminated fast. The one that is satisfied should find out from the other one what they desire sexually and begin to build themselves into that level. This should be done gradually for the sake of their partner and the marriage. Let the dissatisfied one also allow patience to come in, knowing that people have different levels of sexual appetite. If you're facing any challenges in any area of your marriage or courtship, I recommend you get more wisdom from those who have been there:Click Here!